Last night, Benjamin asked if we could change his crib into a “big boy bed”. I was surprised to hear it — it’s not something we’ve advocated for and I wasn’t sure he’d even been paying attention the couple of times we had explained to him, months ago, that his bed converts into a “big boy” bed and that he should tell us when he wants us to do it. (When will I learn? This kid is ALWAYS listening.)
Also, Benjamin has not been in a hurry to grow up — especially since Liam’s arrival. After a brief initial interest in potty training, he doesn’t want to have anything to do with it. We’ve cut him back to 2-3 bottles a day, and he will drink milk from a cup, but we haven’t made many strides in moving away from bottles, either. And he’s been reluctant to embrace the separation of school (although this week he did seem happier about going and less enthusiastic to leave). So, I figured that moving out of his crib would go in the same category, and that it would be a while until he decided it was time.
I should have figured, though. During our move and transition here, he slept in several “big” beds — a twin bed at my mom’s house before we left, another in our first apartment here, the couch at the second apartment we had here, and a twin bed mattress on the floor when we first moved in here. And, we’ve had a few “sleep overs” on the futon in the living room. So, the concept isn’t foreign to him.
Our plan is to change it tomorrow. For now, a “big boy” bed means changing his crib into a toddler bed. It’ll still be small, but he’ll be able to get in and out on his own. It’ll be easier to give him a pre-bed snuggle, and I won’t miss lifting him in and out of the crib twice a day, every day.
I’m also a little sad, though, and a little anxious. It’s been comforting to know, when I put him down for the night, that he’ll be there in the morning. I haven’t had to worry about him getting up and playing in the middle of the night, wandering through the house, getting in to stuff while we’re sleeping, waking Liam up, or any other variety of nocturnal mayhem. Yikes.
I used to say that I’d leave the video monitor in his room hooked up until he was in his “big boy” bed and could come and get us when he needs us. Not a chance. I’m keeping that thing set up for the time being.
I wonder how long it’ll take him to figure out he can unplug it. Yet again, life as I know it, is over.